tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32465923.post2638788987479111149..comments2021-03-24T04:59:58.916-06:00Comments on Duckford: Great review, and insanely bad review ("for balance"?)Sandra Doddhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11853107998229753762noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32465923.post-41821877990111923132012-07-12T03:39:10.568-06:002012-07-12T03:39:10.568-06:00Jenna, I'm glad you found "Humility and F...Jenna, I'm glad you found "Humility and Formality" and it sparked some good ideas in you. You're brave to ingest (visually and cognitively) something someone had called poison. :-)Sandra Doddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11853107998229753762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32465923.post-85403634436318816222012-07-11T20:56:58.597-06:002012-07-11T20:56:58.597-06:00I came across this blog by accident while looking ...I came across this blog by accident while looking for more information about the Outlands. I'm so glad I did! I read his negative comments about your treatise on formality and humility. It absolutely made me want to read it and see where he was coming from. I don't understand how he could think this would change someone for the worse. I think it is wonderful. I know it's written for squires and apprentices, but as a newcomer, it helped me realize that I'm not the only one who experiences trepidation in fully immersing myself in the game. Even kings and queens might feel a little sheepish when a friend bows to them and calls them by their title instead of by their nickname. I'm constantly afraid I'll make a mistake and fail to recognize someone's rank or that they'll think me silly in my attempts at deference. I blush when someone calls me m'lady the same way I do when someone introduces me to their 5 year old as Mrs. instead of by my first name. I know it's a matter of respect and I need to get used to it. Reading this helped me to think of it as helping my fellow player stay present in <i>their</i> persona instead of making it about me. It's part of maintaining the ambiance and changing my mindset will help immensely in not feeling like I'm doing everything wrong. Thank you for writing it and making it available to the public. I loved it.Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00422371825227138662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32465923.post-22958131050166142802011-10-21T11:22:08.979-06:002011-10-21T11:22:08.979-06:00Because the original poster is away for the weeken...Because the original poster is away for the weekend, I left this note to him on the side: "Sorry about the craziness on your wall. I wanted to reassure you, in case you would worry, that I'm not at all hurt or offended by the monkey-hooting insanity of whoever that guy is. I'm really amused. My teenaged daughter was sitting here and when his comment about me having created poison came, she said he was poisoned by his own negativity. I wasn't thinking anything nearly so poetic or direct. I see it as someone wanting to seem knowledgeable and important without any knowledge or importance of his own. "Sandra Doddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11853107998229753762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32465923.post-48058278182385518862011-10-21T11:15:30.231-06:002011-10-21T11:15:30.231-06:00This is really amusing. I shared the post here wi...This is really amusing. I shared the post here with some of those who were involved originally, and some who read it later. A couple of the responses from people who HAVE read it, more than once (names not attached): <br /><br />-------<br /><br />If I hadn't read H&F before and I had read his "review", I would pretty well drop everything to read it. I mean, really, why bother reading ANYTHING if it won't change you in some way? He could have learned a lot by reading it. It would have definitely changed him for the better.<br /> <br />He's a wanker. <br /><br />--------<br />and<br />-------<br /><br />Maybe he just has his own recipes for better behavior and being nice to people, and that is why he considers himself a cook. ;)<br /><br />Seriously, I think his comments are 100% on par with what is going on in this country. He has only heard, not honestly experienced, researched, even read, or otherwise found any factual or real information on the topic. However, he wants to and is attempting to enforce his ignorant opinion as factual evidence. Wow... <br /><br />Back when [the original] was happening, I had no idea we were creating a sacred tome of bad juju. Had I known that, I might have kept treating folks like garbage and being mean. Wow. <br />--------Sandra Doddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11853107998229753762noreply@blogger.com